A person’s attitude toward himself has a profound influence on his attitude toward God, his family, his friends, his future, and many other significant areas of his life. –Bill Gothard
Self esteem describes the overall sense of self-worth or personal value in a person. It can be understood from the standpoint of an essential need we have for normal, healthy development, and also relationships. Your self-image is how you evaluate your own life, feel about your job, relationships, where you’re going in life, and how you see yourself among other things. The person with positive self worth generally gets more of their needs and wants met, and lives a more satisfied and full life!
How do you really feel about yourself? Do you compare yourself positively with others, or tend to evaluate yourself as superior/inferior to others? Do you have a harsh, negative opinion of yourself? How do you know when your self-esteem is healthy?
Healthy self worth is generally seen as a realistic self appraisal: I am equal to others, I have good qualities, I can do things as well as most people, or I am comfortable around successful people. A non realistic self appraisal would fall into the pride category-I am superior to others. Another unrealistic appraisal would be feelings or thoughts of inferiority when measured against others. Often this involves faulty thinking.
Do I have a healthy sense of self worth?
Asking yourself some questions can help you identify how you see yourself:
- Do I often feel rejected by others?
- Do I have a positive attitude about myself, or more negative?
- Can I accept I have good qualities and abilities?
- How often do I “hate” or dislike myself?
- Do I feel useful more than I feel useless?
- Am I proud of myself, my accomplishments?
- Do I see myself as a failure?
- Am I a person of worth and value?
Self Worth and Therapy
We work with clients on identifying their views on life including how they see themselves, others, their world and their future. We use cognitive therapy to help identify, evaluate and modify underlying core beliefs about themselves in order to feel better and find different perspectives for their life. Clients also develop goals for change and use various processes in evaluating self esteem that can be helpful to personal growth and development leading to more satisfying relationships and enjoyment in daily living. If you feel your sense of self is hindering success in relationships or enjoyment of life, give us a call so we can schedule you an appointment.
If I long to improve my brother, the first step toward doing so is to improve myself. –Christina Rossetti